When first dating someone, dreaming about that person can be expected. When it has been over a month and you’re still dreaming about them, you have got to find out what’s going on with you. Is there something wrong? Are you missing something in your life? Does this mean the relationship won’t go further?
There are many reasons for dreams about ex-boyfriend. But you need to understand that all of these dreams are not good. Most of such dreams appear only because your subconscious thinks that it happened in reality and experience. The major types of dreams about ex-boyfriend are:
You’re dreaming about him because you have unresolved feelings for him. You know in your head that he is not good for you, but your heart wants to believe that he could be. You may have tried to move on, but the fact that you still dream about him suggests that it’s not working.
The reason you’re still dreaming about him is that you still have unresolved feelings for him. You may have even been in a relationship with him, but there was something that always bothered you about the relationship, and it’s probably that something that you’ve been dreaming about.
In order to get over your feelings for him, you need to figure out what it is that’s bothering you so much. It could be something very small or it could be something major. If the problem is tiny, then maybe all it will take to get over him is a little bit of self-reflection and an honest conversation with yourself. Maybe there are other things weighing on your mind as well, and they’re contributing to your feelings for this person. Maybe this person reminds you of someone else in your life who hurt or disappointed you (maybe even an ex).
If the problem is major and has been plaguing your relationship for years (or even decades), then there’s probably no easy fix here—you need to start working through those issues before moving on with someone new.
1. You have unresolved feelings toward your ex.
Before you freak out too much about this one, remember that these feelings don’t necessarily have to be romantic ones. According to relationship expert Terri Orbuch, who spoke to Women’s Health, dreaming about an ex could mean that you’re looking for closure. Maybe you’re unsettled with the way things ended between the two of you, or maybe you’re still trying to work past the way your relationship ended in your mind.
2. You’re worried about being successful in a new relationship.
As Ally Mead — a psychic who has studied dream analysis — told The Huffington Post, there’s a good chance that if you dream about the ex when you’re starting a new relationship with someone else, you’re probably comparing the two in an effort to make sure that this time, things work out. “If you’re entering into a relationship with a new person, your psyche may still be trying to sort out the pluses and minuses of your old relationship,” Mead said. “In this situation, your psyche is trying to ensure success with your new relationship.”
3. It’s a symbol of a bigger problem.
“Most of the time, however, dreams are symbolic and not literal,” Mead said. “Your feelings are probably best directed toward healing whatever happened to make you exes in the first place.”
So basically, if you’re dreaming about your ex, think about why your relationship ended and what you could have done differently. If it was your fault — and even if it wasn’t — sorting that out and preventing it from happening in future relationships could put these dreams to an end.
4. You’re actually not over them.
Even though there are plenty of reasons you’re dreaming about your ex other than still having feelings for him or her, this is still an option. You might need to take a deep look inside yourself and figure out if you’re actually wishing you could get back together…and then figure out where to go from there.
5. It’s not about your ex, it’s about you.
According to Psychics Universe, there’s a chance that an ex in a dream represents a part of you. Maybe it means that you gave up too much of yourself and what you love in your past relationship, and it’s time to get that back. Or maybe it means that you’re neglecting yourself in some way. Either way, it can’t hurt to analyze your own behavior during the time you were with your ex and figure out if you need to make any major changes.
6. You’re afraid someone else will hurt you again.
For a lot of people, getting over an old relationship is difficult, simply because it comes with the fear of being hurt the same way again — especially if your breakup was particularly brutal. That might have something to do with your ex guest starring in your dreams. According to Exemplore, the dream might even be your way of realizing a new relationship is going down the same path. That might mean that you need to do what you can to change the relationship’s course, or that you haven’t had full emotional closure.
7. The ex in your dream is actually you, breaking up with yourself.
As you can probably tell by now, exes appearing in dreams can symbolize all kinds of things. Exemplore says it might just be your mind’s way of telling you that you’re repressing a different side of yourself — likely an opposite side of yourself — and that you need to get in touch with who you really are.
“Interpreting this type of dream as a sign that you should re-connect with your ex will not only leave this issue unresolved but will also complicate the issue further,” the site says. “This dream is giving you the message that you need to strengthen the relationship you have with yourself; don’t distract yourself by misplacing your energy into external relationships at the moment.”
8. You’re trying to forgive them after a bad breakup.
If things between the two of you didn’t end well and there was never an opportunity for forgiveness, the dream could be your brain’s way of creating that opportunity for you. According to Dreamstop, it might represent the fact that you need to make peace with your ex. Want the dreams to stop? Forgive your ex when you’re awake and conscious, and that might just do it.
9. You miss parts of your life with them.
According to Dreammoods Dream Dictionary, seeing your ex in a dream could mean that there’s something in your old life with that person that you miss — and you want it back. However, that missing piece isn’t necessarily the person; it could be where you lived, something you did together, or a place you used to visit often during that time in your life.
10. Something in your life is making you unhappy.
Dreammoods also adds that an ex in your dream could be a symbol of something else in your life that’s making you unhappy, something else you need to “break up with” in order to fully move on. If there’s anything you know for a fact is dragging you down, it might be a good idea to take steps to change
Dreaming about an ex can mean all kinds of things, but if you want to know what that dream is trying to tell you, it’s best to look inside yourself. You probably already have all the answers you’re looking for.
What to do if you dream about your ex and you’re in a relationship
If you wake up from a dream about an ex while your current partner is snoozing right beside you, rest assured that they can’t read your mind. Also know that you haven’t done anything wrong, and dreaming about your ex doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re unhappy in your current relationship. “Happier couples start to realize they miss the excitement of reuniting after a long day’s work,” Loewenberg previously told churchgists about couples who have cheating dreams during quarantine.
Ultimately, your dreams at night are not a by-the-book script of your real life. Sure, you’ can analyze them to tease out meaning, but they’re often not as they seem on face value. If you feel you have an issue going on in real life and your dreams are reinforcing that notion, you can communicate with your partner or seek the assistance of a mental-health professional or therapist.
Why Have I Been Dreaming About An Ex After A Breakup?
Dreaming about your ex can cause a flurry of emotions (both good and bad) we thought had long passed. Dreams about a recent ex can confuse a new relationship or current relationship in your waking hours. It’s important not to jump to conclusions as to why dreaming about your ex and past relationship appeared in your current life, and online therapy can help. These dreams don’t necessarily mean you want to get back together with an ex in a new relationship. There are many other possible causes for why we’re dreaming about an ex, such as maybe you subconsciously miss them even as a friend in your waking hours. However, as will be discussed, the interpretation of a dream depends on a wide variety of factors, and for many folks, the conclusions to draw about a dream about an ex has more than one possibility for what your subconscious giving means for your past, current relationships, and life.
What Your Dreams Represent
Even when your dreams are about something significant, these fantasies are rarely literal. Your dreams are usually symbolic. The things people tend to dream about are usually a mixture of thoughts, events, and reflections that get stored throughout the past day. The reason why may be that you miss your romantic ones from your past. Similarly, if your ex possessed a quality your current partner lacks, it could be a longing for this missing trait your ex had. If you find yourself dreaming about your ex from a long time ago, this can sometimes indicate a longing for the past when you were feeling desired by ex people. When we yearn for our lives from years ago, what we might be yearning for is the happiness or other positive feelings about that time period.
You may dream about an ex when you were successfully killing the relationship before the relationship ended with that person long ago. In this case, dreaming about an ex can signify a time when our lives were less responsible, less complicated, or more fun before a forced end. As we get older, we rack up more responsibilities in our adult and new life. This can, at times, make us miss more simple or carefree periods, though when we keep dreaming and idealize we forget negative emotions like anger towards a past partner. If this is the case, it might be okay to enjoy some nostalgia you’re dreaming about, but then bring yourself back to think about the here and now in the waking hours of your current life. Dreams can be a coincidence, not a symbol
If you only dream of your ex and old partner from time to time, consider asking yourself how often you dream of other people, like old friends or family members. It could be that you’re attaching too much significance to your ex appearing in your dream. If you have trouble remembering, consider starting a dream journal. This way, you can write about any dreams you have to see if any dream patterns emerge.
As we bring this to a close,
Dreams of an ex can sometimes mean you want them back. Even if it’s been a significant amount of time since you dated your ex, it can take a while for your unconscious desires to surface, in the form of dreams. You may still think of your ex occasionally; however, it doesn’t mean you want your ex back. But the possibility is worth exploring. It can also be important for you to avoid making any major phone calls. Think things over carefully and move slowly to ensure you make the right decision. After all, you split up for a reason.
So if this sounds like something that’s happened to you, relax—and don’t panic! Take a deep breath and sit down with a piece of paper and write down all the reasons why things didn’t work out between the two of you before deciding what to do next. You’ll need this list later when we talk about how to get over them once and for all!