Wedding rings. What do they mean? What do you say about them? What do you say when you exchange them? Do I have to wear a ring at all? My answer as a professional wedding officiant is that you don’t have to wear a ring; that’s between the two of you. Your wedding rings have any meaning you choose to give them, and you can say that any way you want! But that may leave it a little too wide open for some people, so here are some options I’ve collected to inspire you. Feel free to use any of them as they are or rewrite any of them to best express yourself. With this ring, I thee wed…
With this ring, I thee wed. It seems so simple. At least I thought it was. Too many times during simple elopements, when a bride or groom repeats after me, it comes out, “With this ring, I be wed.” And while that may be true, it doesn’t sound very ceremonial. So I’ve switched it to “With this ring, I marry you.”
Spiritual Meaning Of A Wedding Ring
Wedding rings have existed for over one thousand years, symbolizing fidelity, unity, and love. Weddings are sacred rituals that also have existed since ancient times, joining two individuals into one unified pair. “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
Are you required to wear a wedding band once you are married?
No. Contrary to popular belief, you are not legally required to exchange or wear rings when you get married. That decision is between you and your spouse. Some people insist their spouse wear a ring in order to let the whole world know they are married. Or, they want the world to know that you are taken, so keep your eyes and hand off! Some people prefer tattoo’s or not to wear a ring at all. One groom had lost his finger when his wedding ring got caught on something! Ouch! So, maybe a wedding ring is not for you. Some couples just don’t want to spend the money if they aren’t actually going to wear the ring.
Wedding rings have religious symbolism
Wedding rings have religious symbolism. Religious ceremonies will bless the rings before the couple exchanges them. I once married a couple in their backyard. I performed a lovely Christian wedding ceremony that didn’t didn’t have a ring blessing. After the wedding ceremony, the father of the bride declared that the rings needed to be blessed before their couple walked back into their house or it was back luck for their marriage. So I grabbed their hands and said “Let us pray” and blessed the rings. I’m not quite sure what he was thinking, but we respected him. Other couples have simply asked for the blessing to be included.
Wedding Rings: More Than Just Jewelry
Wedding rings are more than just a symbol of love and commitment between two individuals. For many, they hold deep religious symbolism that dates back centuries. In traditional religious ceremonies, the rings are blessed before being exchanged by the couple as a way to invoke divine favor and protection over their marriage.
One of the most famous mentions of rings in the Bible can be found in Genesis 24:22, when Abraham’s servant gave a ring to Rebekah as a sign of betrothal. This act symbolized a covenant between Rebekah and Isaac, much like the exchange of wedding rings in modern ceremonies.
Throughout history, wedding rings have been seen as powerful symbols that transcend their physical form. They have been used in various cultures and religions to mark the sacred bond between husband and wife, and to seek the blessings of the divine on their union.
Wedding Ring Vows. Sometimes, couples will speak their wedding vows when they exchange rings instead of making a separate statement. The Formal Consent to Marry, spoken wedding vows and the exchange of a ring is what the “ceremony” is. It’s very formal and serious. It’s not for everyone but there is a time and a place for everything.
Spiritual Meaning of A Wedding Ring In Christianity
Wedding rings are ubiquitous and have existed for thousands of years. These are circular metal bands worn commonly on the ring finger of either the left or right hand and are exchanged between a couple on the day of their wedding to symbolize eternal love, friendship, trust, and fidelity.
These bands are mostly forged of platinum, gold, or silver, in order to ensure their permanence, and are made from precious metals to emphasize the importance and sacredness of marriage.
Wedding rings are not only prized for the material that they are made of but are immensely valued as bearers of deep emotions and sentiments. They mark an occasion that many people consider the most important days of their lives.
In this article, we will be exploring the origins of wedding rings, their significance and symbolism, historical and modern styles, and the different metal options for selecting rings.
The Significance of Wedding Bands
The meaning of wedding bands come from several factors. These include:
- The shape – wedding bands are round with a hole in the middle. The symbol of the circle signifies no beginning or end. As such, it symbolizes infinity and completion. The hole in the center can signify a new pathway.
- The metal – wedding bands are typically made of precious metals, which can have their own symbolism. Platinum signifies purity, true love, rarity and strength while gold symbolizes love, wealth, grandeur, wisdom and prosperity.
- The gemstone – if you decide to have diamonds or other gemstones added to your ring, they can add another layer of meaning. Diamonds, for example, represent integrity, strength, purity and everlasting love.
- Personalization – this refers to any engravings, symbols or other forms of personalization you choose to include. The meaning varies, depending on the type and style of personalization you choose.
The Origin of Wedding rings
The Egyptians
The Egyptians were the earliest civilization to use rings as a symbol of love. They made their rings with reeds, hemp, papyrus, and leather, which were twisted and shaped into a circle. The circular shape of the ring symbolized an endless and eternal union between the couple. Additionally, the space in the middle of the ring was considered by the Egyptians as a door to a new life that would lead the couple into paths both familiar and unfamiliar. The Egyptians wore this symbolic ring on the left finger of the left hand because they believed that this finger had a vein that went straight to the heart.
Greece and Rome
The origins of wedding rings in Europe can be traced back to ancient Rome. The Romans adopted the Egyptian tradition of exchanging wedding rings but unlike the Egyptians, the Greeks and Romans made the rings out of bone, ivory, and later on precious metals. The Greeks did not use rings solely for the purpose of marriage but also gifted them to lovers and friends. On the other hand, the Romans were the first to decree that rings had to be exchanged in weddings. In Roman society, the ring was only worn by the woman, and seen as a public marker of her marital status.
Modern Western society
Western society adapted and continued wedding traditions that were established by the Romans. However, for many centuries in both Europe and the United States, it was only women who wore the wedding ring. This phenomenon began to change during the First World War. Soldiers and officers took pride in wearing their wedding rings to display commitment to their spouses. It also reminded them of good memories with their family who were far way. Since the time of the First World War, wedding rings have been worn by both partners to depict their deep love and commitment.
Wedding Rings and Religion
Christianity
The wedding or marriage ring came into use in Christian ceremonies in the 9th century AD. In Christianity, wedding rings are not only exchanged as a symbol of love between partners, but also as a commitment towards God. The couple say their vows and exchange rings before God to get his blessings, and to emphasize that their union is deeply spiritual.
Hinduism
In Hinduism, the exchange of finger rings has never been prevalent. In recent times this trend can be found among the younger generations, but even then, the ring is merely a symbol of love and does not have any religious significance. In most Hindu cultures the women wear toe rings, or Bichiyas to signify their marital status. There are several reasons cited for wearing the toe ring, but the most common belief is that the toe ring presses on nerves which are connected to the reproductive system and keeps it healthy.
Styles of Wedding Rings
Both in the past and present, wedding rings have never been designed in a singular style. There have always been a variety of options for the couple to choose from. Historical rings were mostly made of gold and had designs etched into them. On the contrary, modern rings are admired for their intricate carvings, and are preferred to plain rings.
Some of the historical and modern ring styles will be explored below.
Historical Styles
- Signet Ring: The Signet rings were carved with a person’s name or a family crest.
- Fede Ring: The Fede ring had two hands clasped together and was made of more than 2 rings attached.
- Carved Rings: Carved rings had an image of the couple sculpted in them.
- Poesy Rings: Poesy rings were mostly made of gold and had an inscription of a song or a verse carved into them.
- Gimmel Rings: The Gimmel rings had two or more interlocking bands. They were similar to Fede rings.
Modern Styles
- Classic Style: The most classic style of wedding ring is the plain band, typically made of gold or platinum. This often has no embellishments.
- Eternity Band: This style features a band with a row of diamonds or other gemstones surrounding the surface of the band. These can be held in pave or channel settings and can be either half or full eternity.
- Chevron – This is like a wishbone shape and holds the symbolism of the wishbone. It’s also a practical option that can accommodate a large stone in the engagement ring.
Best Wedding Ring Metals
Not only does the style of the wedding ring matter, but also the metal. Most people expect the ring to be long lasting and durable. While some people can afford the most expensive metal, others seek ones that are well within their budget. Fortunately, in today’s world, there are ample choices available. The metal choices for wedding rings are listed below:
Platinum:
- Out of all metals, platinum is the most desired due to its durability and beauty.
- It’s one of the strongest metals available on the market but is also among the most expensive.
Yellow Gold:
- Yellow gold rings are the most commonly bought and have been in use for centuries.
- They have a yellow hue, a beautiful shine, and are long lasting.
White Gold:
- One of the most popular options today, it’s often chosen as a substitute for platinum.
- White gold contains a rhodium plating that adds shine, luster and strength to the metal.
Red/Rose Gold:
- Rose Gold/ Red gold has become a trend in recent times.
- This type of gold has a beautiful, rosy tint and are preferred by those who want a more modern touch to traditional gold.
Silver:
- Silver is sometimes chosen for wedding rings. If polished regularly it sparkles and shines.
- It is great option for many because it is strong, yet inexpensive. However, silver is hard to maintain.
Titanium:
- Titanium wedding rings have become more common recently. It’s a very strong metal, but light weight at the same time.
- Titanium is a great option for those who want a durable ring at an affordable prize.
In Brief
The exchange of rings has played an important role in wedding traditions both in the past and in the present. Irrespective of which finger the ring is worn on, all traditions see wedding rings as a significant marker of love and marriage. There are numerous styles and metals to choose, and in recent times there are plenty of options for everyone in varying costs.