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When A Pastor Should Resign

When a pastor resigns, it is a time of great sadness, but also relief. The sadness comes from the fact that the pastor was called to serve his or her congregation, and they have been forced to leave. The relief comes from knowing that the pastor has had enough and needs to escape the pain and hurt caused by those within their congregation.

When a pastor resigns, it can be for many reasons: abuse from members of the congregation, finances issues with the church, or even personal reasons like family health issues. Whatever the reason though, it is important for them to know that they should not feel ashamed of what has happened.

It is common for pastors to feel ashamed when they have resigned because of all of these things. They may feel as though they have let down their congregation or God in some way; however this is not true at all!

In fact there are many benefits to having resigned as a pastor including: 1) You will no longer have to deal with abusive members of your congregation 2) You will no longer be worried about money issues 3) Your family will no longer worry about you being away so much.

When should a pastor resign?

As I write this, a phone call came yesterday from an embattled pastor.  He’s under constant duress from a group of leaders who want him out for whatever reasons–some real and some contrived–and are growing impatient with his inability to find a place to land.  His question to me was whether he should resign. And if so, should he ask for severance, and for how long, and should he couch the terms in words to protect his future job prospects from being endangered.

I wish I could say this is a rarity.  But I receive such calls almost weekly.

Here are some thoughts on the subject….

A pastor may resign any time he chooses. Whether he should or not is between him and the Lord who sent him to that church.

A pastor should resign only when the Lord chooses or if he is forced to do so.

Scripture knows nothing about pastors jumping from one church to another, about pastors climbing the ecclesiastical ladder in order to enhance their resume, or pastors being forced out of a congregation.

Welcome to the church of the 21st century.  We have all those things and more.

Many will say a pastor should expect to be jobless at least once in a long career.  In most cases, that means being forced out, either abruptly or more gently.

When I asked an editor for subjects for this blog, among his suggestions was this one: “When should a pastor resign?”

I wish I knew. I wish there was a simple answer.  But here goes….

One.  The pastor whose support from the congregation has dwindled away to next to nothing should resign.  There’s no point in trying to lead people who will not follow.

The reality, however, is that he has to feed his family.  (This is a strength of being bi-vocational; you need not hang around longer than necessary in order to have a paycheck.) Therefore, he may wish to negotiate his departure with the leadership.

Two. The pastor who is told by the Lord to resign should do so.  (I admit this is one of those “well, duh” statements, clearly obvious.  But it must be included in the list.) Again, he may need to arrange for some interim financing until he can get another church.

Three. The pastor whose family life has shattered should resign and find a way to work on rebuilding it.  This statement needs some further refining.  This is not saying if an adult child does something immoral or illegal that the pastor should  turn in his papers.  Those who put this kind of burden on deacons and pastors are being unreasonable and exercising a letter of the law (which kills) instead of the spirit of the law (which gives life; 2 Corinthians 3:6).  It would however be impossible to list all the circumstances which would require a pastor to resign.  He and the church should pray for wisdom and be willing to do whatever would honor Christ, bless the church, and affirm the ministry of this shepherd.

Four.  The pastor who does something illegal or immoral or blatantly unscriptural should resign.  In most cases, of course, even if he doesn’t resign, the congregation will do it for him, as they should.  Churches which allow an immoral pastor to continue in the pulpit–I’ve known of such cases–are betraying the Lord out of a misplaced fear of doing something disruptive.  Only courageous men and women should ever be placed in leadership roles in the church.

Five. The pastor who no longer believes what he preaches should resign.

Six. The pastor whose heart is no longer in his work, who no longer loves the people and who resents the demands placed upon him by the congregation should resign.

Seven. The pastor who realizes either that he is unsaved or was never called by God into this work should resign.

My counsel to the brother who called this week included this reminder toward the end of the phone call: Seek out other counselors.  Listen to several people.  “In a multitude of counselors there is safety,” says Proverbs.  Then, make up your own mind as to how the Lord is leading.

No pastor should remain at a church longer than he should.  The pastor who rides a declining church all the way to the ground because he has nowhere else to go does a shameful thing.  There is always “someplace else” to go, as long as McDonald’s and Chick-fil-A are hiring.

God, bless your church, please. And lead your pastors.

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